What is compassion?
Compassion is a concern for the suffering or problems of others.
Coming from its latin roots it means to suffer together. You are in pain, in turn so am I. Think about that for a minute please.
Your hand gets stung by a bee. You feel pain. You get offended or yelled at or smacked in the face. You feel pain. A compassionate person also suffers from your suffering. How often does this happen? How often in the dojo or among other budo friends and budo circles does this happen? My experience and observation is that it is a rare occurrence. Far more the exception than the rule in classical martial arts at least.
Why is it so? Is it the will of victory over everything that compels us to practice martial arts? "To win! To win! That is the only goal, and I will step over whomever I must to win!". Does this mindset pervade the world of Martial arts? When someone is injured why are we not offering help? There are physical and emotional injuries to attend to. Our own and those of others.
Isn't that a bigger duty for us as Martial Artists? To help those in need without a selfish agenda. As people who practice arts that increase our power should we not be using that power for good? If you walk around wearing a superhero t-shirt but do not embody any of the superhero's real strengths, one of them compassion for the human race, then why bother to idolize comic book or movie characters? Where’s the disconnect? If you romantically gaze at the past. At the samurai and at bushido, yet you lie and let friends get mistreated, are you not practicing what a warrior code should stand for?
You put these things on shelves and in frames. Budo, bushido, samurai, warriors, martial arts. You fasten on armor and uniforms. You spend time sweating, and yelling. Learning how to kick, and punch, and slice with a sword.How much time do you dedicate to being a better person? Really admiting that you lack compassion for people. Compassion for yourself. Compassion for your friends, for your enemies.
It might be possible that you can’t let go that you dislike someone, but with compassion you could at least understand what they are going through. If you can not see these truths then you are truly lost. You can gain all the certificates and rub elbows with all the masters you want to but your heart and mind will always be less than that of the man or woman who actively tries to use compassion in this world.
I am speaking in the realm of warriorhood. We can even look to examples of admonishiment for this type of reflection on our character to Samurai generals.
“Particularly the man whose profession is being a warrior, he should calm his mind and look into the depths of others. Doing so is likely the best of the martial arts.” ~Shiba Yoshimasa, samurai general circa 1400
“Sympathy is your ally. Malice your foe.” -Takeda Shingen, samurai general circa 1500
When I trained to be a monk there was some practice to help maintain a compassionate view. During certain meditations you would think about a friend or someone you have trouble with;
Just as I want happiness so does this person wish for the same.
Just as I have known sadness and despair this person has also known it.
Just as I want to avoid suffering and pain this person also avoids it.
Just as I make mistakes this person also makes mistakes.
That can help align things in our minds. I am still learning and struggling to be a good person. I admit that I make many mistakes each day, and that I have mistreated people, thought not maliciously, I have indeed hurt people through careless action. Last month, last year, a few years ago. I’ll likely do it again later today. But I want to admit it honestly to myself and those I injure. As soon as I possibly can and admit the mistakes. I believe this reflection and use of compassion is as important today as it was when General Takeda said that sympathy is your ally.
A warrior without compassion is a feral and dangerous beast.
©2018 Steven F. Radzikowski